7 Months

It was two years ago this month that Dave and I took a "second honeymoon" to Hawaii. It was great fun. (Much more relaxing than going with the kids.) We were able to rent a condo right on the ocean, so the breezes blew through our window at night. We enjoyed just being together and experiencing life and all of its wonders together.
One year ago this month, we were at the Coral Pink Sand Dunes with my brother, Alden, his wife, Natalie, and their kids. By this point, the tumors in Dave's stomach were starting to bother him and he spent the first day throwing up and feeling miserable. Fortunately, and in answer to our prayers, he felt better for the last two days and had the time of his life tackeling the huge dunes on his 800cc Can Am.
There is nothing that we, as his family, wouldn't exhange to have him here, rather than just the memories, but this is our lot. We know that the Lord loves us and that he wishes the best for all of us, but that doesn't necessarily make the journey any less difficult. If we press on, however, we can be assured that the outcome will be what the Lord has intended, and that is what we all want, isn't it?
Don't we all look back at our kids and others who are struggling through life and think,"If I'd only known then what I know now, I would have handled thing so differently, and it would have turned out so much better"? And that is the perspective that the Lord has- omniscience. He's been there. And even if we can't see the destination, be assured that He can. And when we look back we can say,"I would have handled things so differently- and I'm so glad that I listened to the Lord instead. Things have turned out better than I ever thought possible."

Comments

Katie said…
you always have such great things to say and in such a great way. You have amazing faith and strength! I can't believe 7 months has passed already. I'm sure it feels like longer than that to you but kuddos to you for making it this far
October 25, 2009 at 3:43 PM
Vickie Allred said…
I love you sweetheart! You are amazing. I hope you know how much I love and admire you and your strength. I hope I will always be there for you. Thanks for loving my sweet son so much. Love Mom
October 26, 2009 at 11:15 AM
Valerie said…
Isn't it such comfort to know of the omniscience of God. In the words of Neal A. Maxwell 'Rather than questioning God's foreseeing of "all these things" in each of our lives, this perfected quality in God should fill us with wonderment and send us to our knees. Worshipful acknowledgment of an omniscient God will cause us to cooperate in the stretching of our souls.' Dave married an elect lady... and she will be with him through eternity.
November 3, 2009 at 11:08 AM
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